Some brides stress out about not having enough help from their family and friends during the planning of their wedding. Every once in a while though, there’s a bride with a BIG family and far too many offers of help. I come from a large family and know how overwhelming (and sometimes overbearing) a large number of people can be. When they believe they are being a helpful, they are actually piling on the stress…
THERE IS A SOLUTION!
First, remember that your family loves you. That is the only reason they would offer to help. Consider yourself lucky that you have an overabundance of help, but then use these handy ideas to keep them involved, but still maintain control!
There are plenty of big and small details that your large family can help with. Trust me, spreading out portions of that huge to do list to your family will not only make them feel like they’ve played an important role in your special day, but it will also alleviate some of your stress.
One of the most tedious and time consuming tasks in the wedding planning process is the stuffing and addressing of all of your invitations for the big day. Your big family can be a considerable help with this daunting task. Some brides choose to do invitations with a few glasses of wine in front of a good chick flick. But why not utilize your big family in getting these invites out? After all, they will be getting one themselves, why can’t they help? Here’s an idea! Have a family dinner and then after dinner make an assembly line to get those invitations addressed! Sisters with their loopy scroll can address while the family members with questionable penmanship can stuff! (The younger members can lick and stamp!) It’s a great excuse to bring the whole crew together, but it also does two great things! First, it gives everyone the opportunity to help, which makes them feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Second, it gives you an open forum to dish on all of the great details about the wedding. After all, the evening is in your honor! Get to talking!
One of the most common ways that family members get involved in your wedding day is by being a part of the wedding party. Sometimes you are super close to these family members. But sometimes your Aunt can be strangely adamant that their son should be your ring bearer. When you’re trying to make everyone happy, the stress can get to you! This is especially difficult in larger families. You have 3 nephews, but which one should be your ring bearer? You have 4 female cousins who all want to be bridesmaids but with your 5 friends, that number quickly gets out of hand. Never fear! “Wedding Party” can mean more than you think! Did you know that you can have 3 ring bearers and 3 flower girls? Nothing is more adorable than an entire army of cuteness walking down the aisle! And instead of having your cousins as bridesmaids, remember that there are always other “responsibilities”. Ask eager to be involved relatives to be ushers or pass out programs prior to the ceremony. What about being on hand to help people at the photo booth scrap book or your oober unique guestbook? What about contributing to dessert time by making their amazing chocolate chip cookies? This way they feel they’ve played an important role on your special day and you can relax, 100% in control!
End of Night Duties
Ever wondered how all those gifts and personal items make their way back to your home once you’ve made your getaway for the honeymoon? Typically parents or siblings take on the responsibility of collecting your things. Appoint one of those eager Aunts, Uncles or Cousins to help out at the end of the night and give mom and dad a break! After all they deserve to enjoy the evening their child gets married, too. When you ask a family member to help with the end of the night duties, you will not only lift some of the weight off your parent’s shoulders, but that family member who couldn’t financially pitch in, will know they played a vital role at your wedding!
Hopefully I’ve given you some good ideas on trying to ease all that family helpfulness. Just remember that at the end of the day your family loves you and for as crazy as they can appear, they want you to have an amazing wedding!
Until next time, keep it classy Austin!